It’s certainly true that some wedding traditions change over time. Some brides today opt out of the garter toss, or serve gourmet donuts rather than a traditional cake. While age-old rituals never go out of style, we love to see couples embrace new traditions as well. What’s one area where we’ve seen a new tradition arise? The First Look!
Until very recently, it was considered bad luck for the bride to see the groom on the wedding day before her grand entrance on the aisle. However, as we’re sure you know, these days it’s more popular to do a “First Look” where the couple sees each other before the ceremony.
Reasons to do a First Look:
- You want a private moment: some couples would prefer to have this moment in a private setting, not in front of all their wedding guests. Allow raw emotions to come through, and exchange sweet words with your sweetheart in private. If you’d like to have a more intimate moment, the First Look is an ideal choice!
- You want your moment to last more than just a moment: If you see each other on the aisle, the “first look” lasts only a moment or two after the doors open; but a First Look gives you more time to take it all in. Your grand entrance also comes with a lot of overwhelming emotion; setting aside a time for your First Look allows you to savor it.
- You want photos to document it: even the best photographers can’t be everywhere at once. On the aisle, it can be tricky to capture the look on his face and yours at the same time, especially when there’s only an instant to do it. A First Look gives your photographer ample time to document every little detail.
- You cry often: it’s okay, we do too. It happens a lot on these big emotional days! If you know you’re prone to tears, consider a First Look where you can let them out, and then have time to freshen up before the ceremony.
Reasons not to do a First Look:
- You’re very traditional: if you’re a highly traditional bride, you might want to keep classic traditions. This is totally understandable! Many of our couples decide the traditional route is what’s best for them, and have been very happy with their decision.
- You love the element of surprise: his emotional reaction on the aisle really is something that can’t be beat. If you want to see his raw astonishment at your bridal beauty, save the big moment for the aisle instead of a First Look.
- You want to heighten anticipation: there’s something to be said about forgoing the First Look in favor of heightened excitement before you do see each other on the aisle. You’ll have a lifetime to spend together… what’s a few extra minutes? Build anticipation until the big reveal.
- You’re superstitious: Hey, don’t laugh—some people really are! If you’re someone who would rather not cross a black cat or walk underneath a ladder, maybe the first look isn’t right for you. Better not chance it, right?
If you decide a First Look is not in the cards for you, you can still incorporate sweet elements of one into your day. Consider meeting each other on opposite sides of a door so you can hold hands or exchange sweet words without catching a glimpse of your soon-to-be spouse. We’ve even seen couples meet blindfolded for an intimate moment before the ceremony. Or, stick to tradition! There’s nothing wrong with building anticipation and not interacting before the big moment.
In the end, it’s up to you—a First Look is a personal choice, and it is absolutely 100% okay to go either way. After all, it is your day! Do whatever makes the day memorable and treasured for you. We’ve had countless First Looks here at our Austin wedding venue, and so far all our couples have had pretty darn good luck. We can’t wait to see what you choose. Let us know how we can help make it happen here at our Austin wedding venue!